Dinamika Penyesuaian Diri pada Wanita Bercerai

Abstract

Marriage have one purpose! happily ever after. But, marriage will end when spouse cannot reconciliate the problem they faced (pease & pease, 2003). Divorce rate increased every years and fact show that woman having initiated twice more than man (Kincaid & Callwell; Pettit & Bloom, in Baum, 2006). Thats why this research involve woman who initiate divorce. Divorce is one of life change. Change in life fol.low by many problems and must resolve (Holmes & Holmes, 1970). When human cannot resolve, desperate and other psychological crisis will coming. Divorced woman experience many changes in their life, so she need to adjust. Some emotional reaction follow divorce are helplessness, low self esteem, anger, ambivalen, hostility, social isolated and depression (Hughes, l9g5; Salts in Lemme, 1995). Beside that, divorced person will feel guilty, loneliness, and other negative emotion (Booth & Amato, 1991; Cohen, Finzi, & Avi-yonah, 1999; pam & pearson, 1998 in cohen & Savaya, 2003) as well as reduce physical and mental health (cotton, 1999; Demo & Acock, 1996 in Cohen & Savaya, 2003). Divorce is traumatic experience (Hurlock, 1980). Divorce influence people in vary ways, depend on how well they adjust. . This reseach use qualitative method because this method can explore adjustment when woman get divorce. Result show how divorced woman in this research make some adjustment in their ll!e. Adjustrnent in participant t have more difficult than adjustrneniin participant 2. we can explained it by factors influence adjustment in divorced woman. narticipant I ha_v9 no social support, the absence meaningful tlpes of relationship, resistant to advice which is inappropriate with what she expected, guilty and regret to divorce. Otherwise, participant 2 have meaningful social support, have meaningful types of relationship and operuress to advice. She also still anger with her ex-husbana; but it makes her though to refuse her husband. Beside thai spiritual practice help her to adjust._ Finally, participant 2 have factors which is can support her life adjustrnent more tlan participant 1 .